A Hobby

I feel like I am missing something. And this is not a new feeling. Ask me what my hobbies are and I will tell you that I enjoy reading on the train to and from work every day. Which I honestly do enjoy, but there is something else missing. I have a wonderful life and family, and one that I wouldn’t change for anything; I just need something else for me to focus on. A hobby.

I hope this comes with a move to Northern California. I will probably be working earlier in the morning, which could (possibly) open up some time for me in the early evening. The weather and the environment of California may help encourage more outdoor activities, but whatever it is I choose, I need to find something. I would love to join a soccer club, take up martial arts again or even focus on parkour, cycling or even strength conditioning with a group. But I need something to focus on beyond my family, my job and reading on the train. As enjoyable as all of those things are, there is room for one more. Getting away from New York will be the catalyst and it will be up to me to make it work from there without losing sight of what really matters in life. That will be the key. And it all starts with the move.

New York No More

I spent a few extra minutes walking around the bustling streets of Midtown during Friday’s evening rush hour last Friday, over streets I have walked on so many times over the past seven years. And it is a surreal experience. It is unbelievable to think that I will soon no longer call New York home. I have been critical of New York lately and have contemplated moving for the past year, but the time is now here. Within the past week my wife and I have put our house up for sale, entertained two offers and accepted the offer that eventually landed at our exact listing price. The inspection has passed and we are intent on packing up and leaving at the end of May. When things come together as smoothly as this, you know it is time to leave. New York has been good to us and it was an excellent career move for me. It was good financially and good personally. I will never forget my time here, and after seven years, would argue that it is fair for me to claim to have some New Yorker in me. My dream here has been fulfilled.

Yet, I am excited to leave and to start what we hope will be a better lifestyle. We don’t necessarily need a better life, but a better lifestyle is a key reason for the move. A lifestyle where family and relatives are nearby, where children can grow and where love and happiness can abound. Let’s hope that northern California is that place, for that is where we are headed next. The next chapter of our life together is about to begin.

Gray Hair (repost)

I wrote the below post exactly two years ago today. Since then, the number of gray hairs I have has at least doubled. Long term, this doesn’t look good for me, but I would prefer it much more than losing my hair. As I look at myself every day in the mirror, the feelings and questions I wrote about exactly two years ago are just as true today, if not more so.

___________________                                                                                                                                                                                       I don’t know how it happened, but there is no mistaking it now. I have a lot of gray hair. This isn’t just a few strands here and there that blend in with the rest of my natural color, but I’m talking about a lot of grayish-white hair. On my head. I’m too young for this. Where did these gray hairs come from? I noticed a few gray hairs years ago and liked the novelty of the idea, but now more hairs appear to be joining the club each week. I actually don’t mind that much (yet) and hope it makes me look a bit more sophisticated or wise, but I am afraid of where this will go. I am nearing the end of my third decade this year. Will my head be one gray mess in ten more years? Will I even have hair at all? Is stress an actual factor in causing hair to turn gray, because I have had some of that in my life? Does anyone even know what causes gray hair other than genetics (but my dad doesn’t have that much gray)? I rather have graying hair than hair loss, but I am just curious as to how this is hitting me at this age