We are literally days away from child number three being born into our family. In some ways, I have never been so unprepared; in other ways, I think I know exactly what to expect. The name of baby girl number three is still up in the air, but I am confident we’ll figure it out before we leave the hospital. My wife has been amazing once again. She is still working full time, on her feet for much of the day, while nine-months pregnant, and comes home to continue to help me raise our two daughters and manage a household. I don’t know what I would do without her. She once told me that she only wanted three kids, and three kids is what we’ll soon have. Now, I am hearing rumblings of one more in our future and I am unsure what to think. When it comes to kids, I want to take it one at a time.
I was asked by a friend last week what is an absolute must for me to do before I die? I thought about it quickly with no immediate response, and then thought about it some more. I was stumped on exactly the type of question that I shouldn’t be stumped on. When I asked her, she responded right away and rattled off a few things that were on her bucket list. It did not come across in a selfish way by any means, but it was obvious that she had her to-do-before-I-die list front and center of her mind and was going to accomplish them one day. I did not.
Of course, under the tab above entitled “In Life”, I did once make a list of the things I wanted to do in life. But that was in 2006. Since then, I am proud to say that I can check a few things off my list, and would probably add a few others, now that I am older and theoretically wiser. But my experience with my friend the other day went to show me how often I think of what I would want to do if I had the chance, as I literally could not come up with a single, solid response. Between trying to do my job well and manage my career, raise children, oversee a household, maintain a good marriage, serve in my church, and find some leisure time for myself, I have forgotten what I would really want to do if I had the time to do it. I am doubtful that I will be in a position anytime soon to focus on me, but it is important to always remember who’s life you’re living.